Wednesday's Wisdom

Don't spend all your time looking back

Saying Goodbye to 2017 aka Saying Goodbye to a loved one

This is a post that I have put off writing for much too long since it is so very difficult to write and to re-live.

Memorial Day weekend I received a call from my brother's girlfriend- Nan -  the most incredible and loving woman that had been in his life for a long time and had never left his side over the years...the call that would change the path of my life forever. She informed me that my baby brother - my only sibling had recently been diagnosed with throat cancer.  A week later, we found out that it was Stage 4 and his treatment options were limited. He eventually decided to forgo treatment and the doctor gave him maybe 6 months without treatment.

First thing first...my brother and I had experienced a rough patch in our relationship which so many siblings have done over the years but the difference is we had not seen each other since our Mom's funeral in 2009.  We eventually started talking to each and while we had not seen each other, we were able to bridge that gap that had come between us.

I made a decision that I would fly to Alabama each month to spend what little time we had left to finally make things right between each other. On my first trip there we had that difficult conversation about what he wanted us to do once he passed.  I could not believe that we were having this "talk" with my little brother.  We also worked on his Will and again...I was so not emotionally prepared to do that.  We looked at what must have been hundreds of pictures and for a short period of time...the years between us faded as we shared our memories of friends, family and good times that we had.  I only managed to get two visits in as his health deteriorated quickly.  As I was preparing to fly back to Texas after my first visit, while struggling to speak, he did make me promise to return to visit him again.  The 2nd visit had me arriving on a Saturday.  While this horrid disease had almost robbed him of his ability to speak, he did manage to say to me that "you did come back".    I reminded him that I made him a promise to return to see him and that I wouldn't have broken a promise to him.   In less than 24 hours, Sunday August, 6th, he would be gone. I will forever be thankful that I was in Alabama for his last day on earth and to be their for Nan during this difficult time.

Even after 5 months, I am still a bit in shock over the loss of my brother and I think about all the time that we wasted by not seeing each other over the years.  Part of me wonders if it took this horrible turn of events to bring us back together again...but I will be eternally grateful that we had this special time together.  I miss  our text messages that we would send back and forth about our favorite collegiate football team - Alabama.  I even sent him a text message on his birthday even though I knew that he would not be reading it this year...but it was the first birthday since he left us! 

I still have so many things that I wished that I had said to him, so many questions that will go unasked but I am just so thankful that we spent the last day of his life together!

I miss you Jim...please know that you left a void in my heart the day that you left us but how selfish is that?  I am just so thankful that you are no longer suffering and not in pain.  You are now with our mom and dad!

Working from Home

What do you think of when you hear someone works from home?

Be honest...do you imagine this in your mind?

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I know before I started working from home full time that is exactly the way that I imagined it. 

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*HA* - Another thing that I have to work really hard at is to maintain a strict schedule.  I have to remind myself to get up from my desk and walk around a bit.  I need to take breaks...I do not have folks coming into my office to chit chat so it is important to take much needed breaks.

The thing that I have found to be true for me is that I have a tendency to begin working earlier now that I do not have to factor in a commute to my daily schedule and I am more than likely to work later for the same exact reason!

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One other thing to remember is that working from home means that I do not have lots of people around to talk to as well. It can get a bit lonely!  If you are a sociable person like I am - this can be a bit of a negative too!

If you are thinking about working from home there are a few things to think about before you make that move:

> Have a dedicated work space.  Make your desk a place where you enjoy working...a place that brings a smile to your face when you see it.

> Define your work schedule and stick to it.  Decide when you want to begin work each day and define your end time.  I like getting to my desk early in the day before others are awake and sending emails right and left.  It is my special time that allows me to slip into the day on my terms.

>  Dress the part.  Each morning I get up and get dressed.  I may or may not put on make-up but I am always in the right mindset for the work day.

> You are working from home...not at home to clean the house.  Spend your work day doing your professional work.

>  Take breaks - nuff said....get up and move around.  Do not sit for 8 hours...take a mental health break as well as getting the blood flowing too!

>  Stay away from social media that is if you are not being paid to do social media!

>  Last but not least - remember it is a privilege to work from home.  You are getting paid to work...do not take this for granted!

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Don't get me wrong - I love working from home but there are days that I would really enjoy getting out and driving to the an office too!

Wednesday's Wisdom

Do you love your job?

Do what you love, and you’ll never work another day in your life. 

I like many folks here in the U.S. have enjoyed some time off from work during the Holidays and to be honest, I am not looking forward to getting up early today.  It has been wonderful to turn off the alarm and wake up when I wake up.  It has been nice to not rush to a meeting or stressing over hitting a deadline.  In the process of mentally preparing myself for hitting the payment again soon, it made me curious about how many people are unhappy with their jobs.  I was shocked at the facts that I uncovered:

According to just-released data by Gallup, only 13 percent of employees are "engaged" in their jobs, or emotionally invested in their work which  in other words means that 87% of folks are not happy with their current job situation.

Another poll shows that most people -- 80% according to Deloitte’s Shift Index survey -- are dissatisfied with their jobs.

I  must admit the percentage of those unsatisfied with their current job situation was a surprise to me.  I knew that there are many folks out there that work to bring home a paycheck but I was really surprised to see such a high percentage.

I will admit that I have been on both sides of this situation before.  I have been fortunate enough to work for some companies that I absolutely loved and really could not wait to get to the office each day.  I have also worked for a couple of companies where I had to drag myself to the office.  I will agree that I felt like I was a much more productive employee when I loved my job.  I felt very disenfranchised when I worked in a job that I did not enjoy.  I felt very unappreciated and I knew because of my feelings about my job - I wasn't as productive as I could have been.


I know that there are many reasons why people do not like their jobs.  Some folks might feel like they are in a dead end job or that they do not like their boss, their company or their co-workers.   What choices do you have if you do not enjoy your job?  We do after all have choices.  Per Gallup - we can do one of the following:

1. Try to work it out
2. Move to another department within the company
3. Find a new job

 I encourage you to not be a part of the 87% but to be a part of the 13% of folks who love their job!

Happy New Year - 2018!

Have you ever come across an inspirational picture that spoke to you?  I wasn't looking for this but this picture found me.  How true is this?  When we are ready to learn, the teacher will appear?

 

I feel like this is my new motto for 2018.  I have been given a blank journal in order to write my true and authentic thoughts. 

The words that I write here going forward will be a true expression of my feelings, I do not want to hide from my thoughts or my feelings but feel safe to share whatever I may be feeling here.  This is my life.